I have met a handful of men and women during my life who appear to have fulfilled and even grown passed the 3rd stage of life, they all have been involved in some form of spiritual practice, either formal or informal.
From what Adi Da has said and from my own observations it appears that the 4th stage of life informs and matures the 3rd stage, in other words it is necessary to be “spiritually open” for the 3rd stage to mature properly and structurally.
Someone with no sense or intuition of Spirit or that which is greater than “matter”, could not truly grow passed or fully integrate in the 3rd stage of life. That is not to say mere belief has anything to do with this process.
The ideal situation according to Adi Da Samraj would be for a young person to grow up in a spiritual community, culturally influenced by people mature in and beyond this stage and by the age of 21 (or adulthood) naturally to have adapted to all that is required for maturity there.
Some qualities that may be evident, there is no idealistic vision necessary, of what is typical here.
- Full integration as an autonomous (rather than chronically dependent or independent) personality, having dealt with and continuing to deal with both childish and adolescent personal strategies.
- Fundamental or natural free attention of mind–the ability to think, feel and be happily embodied and thus breathe and act with clarity and ease.
- A self disciplined life- taking responsibility for money, work, food, sexuality and everything related to a happy functional life.
- A life of conscious active service, rather than chronic self interest and random action.
- The focus of life practice in the 4th stage of life, that is one that is centered in real and self-generated (rather than imposed from without) spiritual practice.
- Having dealt with and continuing to bring to awareness the patterns of sexuality and un-love that tend to dominate the psyche.
- The ability to confess “I am not an addict” to be able to choose freely non addictive patterns.
- Social adeptness, the social level of life would be developed and non problematic (maturity in the 2nd stage of life)
- An ease with the functions of bodily life and grounding, a life positive association with bodily existence (maturity in the 1st stage of life)
“But most people you see do not adapt beyond the third stage of life, do not even come to a point of maturity in the third stage of life. Very few people enter into the fourth stage of life in this society which is without culture. As a result we don’t see much of higher adapted personalities in this culture, this society. We see people more or less of the same kind everywhere. And not much gracefulness, not much serenity, not much bodily confession of the existence of God. If God exists, you should be able to see it in the body of old men and women. Because such bodies have been in the fire for a long time you see, a body submitted to God for 80 years looks a lot different you see than a body that’s just been indulged for 80 years. So the old should be a principle witness within the community”.
___Adi Da Samraj
“Because of their developmental tendencies toward either childish or adolescent ego-dramatizations, those who are yet bound to the unfinished “business” of the first three stages of life are not yet truly ready to enter into the esoteric process …”
___Adi Da Samraj
Further Reading
The laughing monks (

